I won’t blame this on anyone but myself, but I do have valid reasoning that you will surely discount. When your son comes to you with a struggle, it’s welcomed to offer understanding. When he cries with emotional pain of isolation and fear, it’s acceptable to praise and reassure him. If he tells you he loves someone, he is wanting only of your approval. When you have felt that you’ve regretted him, take comfort in these words Mom, I’ve numbed that pain.